'Men love cleaning my flat as I dominate them'

A sex and relationship coach has discovered the importance of prioritizing her own pleasure, even if it means exploring unconventional forms of satisfaction. Catherine Drysdale, who is based in New York, has found joy in engaging with "service subs" who derive sexual pleasure from coming to her apartment and performing household tasks.

In an interview on the Sex Party podcast, Catherine shared that her primary love language is acts of service. She appreciates when a partner goes out of their way to make her life easier by walking her dog, doing her laundry, or bringing her favorite snacks. Catherine first learned about "service subs" when she was 23 and living in Los Angeles. She met a man on Tinder who would come over, bring her food, and then proceed to do her chores such as washing dishes and folding laundry.

This unique dynamic has brought Catherine a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in her relationships.

Catherine would often have the man run her a bath, only to strip off and get in without any sexual activity taking place. She would then send him home without any reward, sometimes allowing him to worship her feet. While she enjoys taking a dominant role sexually, the man's desire for more humiliation, such as cleaning her house in a tiny man-thong, was a step too far for her comfort.

A man helped Catherine with errands when she was sick, bringing her medication and a Covid test. In return, he asked to choose lingerie from her closet and take photos of her wearing it.

Catherine mentioned that many of the men she matches with on dating apps are intrigued by the idea of her being unfaithful. She estimates that 20% to 30% of her matches have an interest in cuckolding or hot-wifing.

She is upfront about her sexual interests when chatting with people online, only agreeing to meet them if they share similar desires. One man she spoke to was enthusiastic about her fantasy of going to a sex club and having her partner watch her with other people.

Catherine was eager to have a certain type of relationship, but unfortunately, the man she was involved with had a strong preference for a racially charged aspect of cuckolding. This made her uncomfortable, leading to a difficult situation. She believes that as long as sex is consensual and not harmful, there is nothing wrong with it. However, she personally does not have a fetish for specific races.

Despite this experience, Catherine is now very comfortable with her sexuality and can experience up to 70 orgasms in a single session. She also maintains a tidy house.